Assumptions

Sometimes when you over hear people talking your can make assumptions about what they aretalking about, and most times you would be wrong. A lot of times what you over hear are people talking about what they have assumed has happened in the 1st place. This is how a rumor is started. This is how friendships end and how adults get their feelings hurt.

We recently learned that we are being talked about by people making assumptions about things that are truthfully none of their business. I have tried to clear things up simply by a statement, but I can not stop thinking about how people that were suppose to be our friends are acting, so while I am not going to use any names I feel I must lay somethings out, even if they are our private business.

In January of this year 2011 we like a lot of Americans got our W2 tax forms in the mail and our 1099's, early Feb. We filed our taxes 2 weeks later we got our refund and decided to buy a boat. Why? A few reasons actually 1. It was a great deal, 2. It was something we had been thinking about for more than a year. 3. We knew that we would be dealing with Haleigh's surgeries for a while and we would be unable to take a real family vacation because of it, we also knew we could take the boat and go camping and have a ton of family fun that way for cheaper than say Disney World, 4. We wanted it. So with all that we got it! And we are so glad we did.

A couple weeks later my van motor blew up and because of how old it was, we needed to decide to either rebuild the motor and risk something else major going wrong, or crushing it and buying another used van or SUV. After finding out the cost of the repairs and what all else was actually wrong with it. We decided to buy an SUV, we put it on hold while we went for Haleigh's 1st surgery. 3 weeks later we took most of what was left and put down on our SUV. We have 5 kids so a car was not a choice for us, and we had to have a vehicle that fit is all with seat belts. While jason has a truck, it seats 5, there are 7 of us! If we would have know our van was going to mess up, would we have got the boat? Not at that moment, but eventually yes we would have.

There is a lot of talk about what we choild have done or what they would have done with that money, while raising money for surgeries for our daughter and something no one has thought of is, our income tax returns no matter how big or small has always went to all of our kids, not just one. The boat and SUV is something they all wanted and needed. My kids need to have fun, my kids deserve to have nice things, and have a way to get to and from the places we need to go without sitting on someones lap!

None of the money we used to do these things were raised for Haleigh's travel. Therefore is really not anyones business, and if anyone has problems with the way we spent our income tax money then I feel you should just withstand from donating to her.

I have never assumed how anyone is paying or has paid for anything, and the fact that I have to justify everything we did and see doing to people who I thought were my friends has hurt me more than I have been in a long long time.